20 Somethings: The Pressures
Girl you are damn near 30…you should AT LEAST have a serious boyfriend. I mean, that girl from your high school is MARRIED and we all thought that would never happen. Your clock is ticking honey; your mother does want to see a grandchild out of you while she’s here. Just don’t be crazy and do it the un-Godly way.
Man listen, you know better and have gown way too much to be working a JOB just to pay bills. Yeah, you may be good at what you do but do you LOVE it? Right. I mean you went to college and graduated, that’s more than we can say about that one guy who didn’t quite make it across the stage with you, but look at him – LIVING. Loving his career! I bet he has a credit score of 800, let’s not even get started on yours…do better.
Look now, you’ve got a cute face and all. You have a nice shape for now, but you know you grew up with little Debbie snacks attached to your hand. Thick can go to fat in a blink of an eye. Pull it together, start pulling your weight…in the gym. Get committed, save your life. You don’t hear me. You’re not getting ripped like ol’ girl from the hood. She’s passing you up, and you’re letting it happen.
Your mind is a dangerous place. It is extremely powerful, and when it’s in these types of hazard zones you feel the pressures from every which way. One of the most critical aids in this negative thinking is social media. It can be the worst place to spend your time, if you allow it. You can become consumed by it if you’re vulnerable enough.
What many of us fail to realize is that our timeline is not OUR timeline. Each individual has his or her own timing, and that’s something I’ve failed to remind myself of as of late. These pressures that are self-inflicted by the means of social media are detrimental to us. I had to remind myself that what I am seeing, what is being portrayed to me – making think less of what I have going on – are only the highlights of what others have going on. Because surely no ones going to expose their valleys when their peaks are so much more appealing. If they do reveal their shortcomings, its only after they’ve overcome their trials – because you know we all live for a good success story. And that is fine too.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that everything isn’t amazing all the time. If it were there would be no lessons learned. Know that things take time. You may need the time spent at that job to get that credit score, to use that credit score to invest in yourself, and build an empire that will allow you to quit that job and have a loving career of your own that will allot you the time to focus on bettering yourself both mentally and physically. Then and only then will you shine from within and it will be so infectious that it attracts that Godly man that is willing to commit to being the best partner you’ve ever imagined. That bond will be so great that you all will start a family of your own, that you and your mother will equally adore.
And it may not be as perfect as I penned, but it will be perfect for you in due time.